So recently I have been thinking about what is acceptable and what is not with regards to medical care. Not about the treatment given but the level of acceptance that a thorough job has been done. What if you and your family were content that your Dr had sorted a problem but your boyfriends family were not and insisted on you seeing their Dr instead. The more I thought about this, the more it got me really, very angry! How dare they tell you what you should do with your body and who you should see for medical advice?! They are hardly connected to you at all It’s insulting to the core.
Either they think that you aren’t capable of looking after yourself, which as a 22 year old, you are and has been for many years! Or the other option is that they have an ulterior motive and just want to have a check up on you for as the potential mother to their grandchildren. Either way this is unacceptable and disgusting.
Possibly what makes me angrier is that you might be thinking of doing it just to keep them happy! No, you never let someone manipulate you to doing something you don’t want to do with your body. And last time I checked, making someone put something in their body that they didn’t want to, was rape. Ok, so maybe that’s a bit of an overreaction but it’s the same principle; it’s your body and you should decide what happens to it.
Also where did they get this information and idea from? What if it was your boyfriend that suggested this hideous plan to begin with? This shows the most patronising and domineering behaviour that I would class as a deal breaker. Don’t confuse “controlling” with “caring” or “possessive” with “protective” it puts a massive dent into gender equality and is NOT the sort of person I would encourage anyone to be in a relationship with.
I have decided that if anyone asked me to do I would tell them to shove their gynaecologist somewhere you’d need a proctologist to get them out!