Just a short post today but I wanted to share with you two things that have crossed my path in the last 2 days that have struck a chord with me. They are from completely different sources and backgrounds but when combined have given me some strength.
The first is the notion of Wabi-Sabi: A way of living that focuses on finding beauty within the imperfections of life and accepting peacefully the natural cycle of growth and decay. Isn’t that poetically beautiful? It’s a Japanese Buddhist idea focussing on one of the three marks of existence: impermanence. It encourages finding beauty in every relationship you have, whether that relationship is with another person, an animal, a thing, anything at all! I think it’s a great perspective and would be a good way to find a silver lining in things that are sad, disappointing and upsetting.
|This might be a bit overkill to protect me|
(p.s. the least sexist female knight drawing I could find)
The second is a lyric from a pink song. Well, I told you they were different! It’s from crystal ball – “I'm learning to be brave in my beautiful mistakes.” I think there is so much stress on people to be perfect and not make mistakes that it can become overwhelming when we don’t get things right the first time. Failing exams now hinders a career progression so significantly that students will literally make themselves sick with study just to get a good pass. Failing relationships are much more of a shock to the ego than they should be. There are billions of people on the planet, it’s so statistically impossible that you will find someone you can spend the rest of your life with on the first few tries and yet a bad break up will cripple even the strongest of egos. Failing to meet expectations from your boss, or your parents or even yourself now incurs a huge penalty most of the time and this really is unfair.
I don’t know about you but I’m still human so I do make mistakes. I’ve made a lot and I will probably make a lot more! Therefore I'm going to need a way to protect myself from getting hurt each time. So rather than adopt full battle armour at all times; my new ego shield is going to be these two notions. I should be brave and find beauty in my imperfections. This doesn’t mean I’m going to abandon all blame when things go wrong and stop attempting to avoid failure but if it happens then it’s not the end of the world.