Monday, 23 September 2013

Closing Time

Closing time, time for you to go out to the places you will be from
Closing time, this room won’t be open till your brothers or your sisters come
So gather up your jackets
Move it to the exits
I hope you have found a friend
Closing time every new beginning comes from some other beginning’s end

Ok so that’s lyrics to closing time by Semisonic and while the song is incredibly awesome and heavily referenced in friends with benefits which is one of my all-time favourite films, it does seem pretty relevant to me at the moment. For those of you not up to speed I very recently moved to Manchester. Very recently meaning 2 days ago so it’s all very new and I’m still working out which cupboards should have what kind of my stuff in. I know it’s a bit of a change from my last move which was slightly more… drastic, but never the less I am, once again, on my own in a place where I hardly know anyone or where anything is! More than that though, it marks a significant shift as I redefine myself from a student to actual adult. I have a flat and a job and pay bills… well I will when the job starts and I sort the utilities people out but you get what I mean.

So that’s the first line sorted about going out to the places you will be from. I’m likely to be here for at least a year and a half maybe longer so I’m counting that as a short term “where I will be from” it’s a stepping stone at least. Moving on to my brothers and sisters coming; well my actual brother spent the first day here with me helping me get the lay of the land which I would have probably struggled with a lot if he wasn’t here! Must ask for a compass for Christmas, or maybe there’s an app for that? Either way I have very little sense of direction and may have never found my way home on my own! Urban family are also coming in the form of some uni mates and school friends who are set to come at the end of the month for a Halloween/Housewarming visit which I am really looking forwards to! I might have worked out where some good bars are by then.

So I gathered up my jackets and moved it to the exits which means leaving everything I know behind. I’ve spent the last 4 years being a student and mostly at uni which I have had to say goodbye to. It’s rather surreal, I don’t think it has sunk in properly yet, maybe it won’t till I start the job and start to feel like a 9-5 drone. I’ve had to pack up and leave uni, and then pack up again and leave my parent’s house to come here. I’ve lost count of how many times I’ve packed up my life into boxes and moved somewhere else! I think the move to Australia was possibly the easiest to pack for as I could only take one suitcase and a carry-on bag on the plane! That was not the case this time. It took two cars to get my moved in this time. I was meaning to get a van but it was all a bit last min due to a LOT of unseen delays which meant I only had confirmation that I had a flat on Wednesday evening so I had 2 days to pack and get organised and a van at that short notice is apparently impossible. Thankfully my brother and dad volunteered cars which had the added bonus that now I had 3 oompa loompas to help with all the boxes!

I’ve never had a problem with having to moving, clearly since I spent the optional year in Australia, but I am aware it’s something that not everyone is comfortable with. I had a fairly serious conversation with someone about Australia a while ago, and they said they didn’t see the pros outweigh the cons. Yes I’m aware that you lose touch with people when you relocate but I’ve always thought the ones that don’t bother to keep in touch were never that close to you anyways. I keep a handful of friends from every place I’ve lived and the rest I wish well but know that both of us are happy having known each other but also happy without each other; kind of like a mutual break up but with friends instead. I have two friends I have known since preschool one of whom I haven’t seen in 5 years face to face but I texted her this morning and we are as close as if we lived next door to each other. So it is possible to keep people close and I’d rather have the adventure of going somewhere new at the cost of not having a huge social group. And it means that I have a lot of people dotted about the world that I can call in on wherever I end up! I recently went to the Netherlands to see a friend there and I even met up with two school friends while in Australia so if I can find people I know there, then I can find people everywhere! Especially as facebook makes it so easy to find out where your friends are (in the broad “I know which city you live in” way not in the “I know you’re eating a pinini in neros upstairs” way).

Last line now; “every new beginning comes from some other beginning’s end”. Well that’s true but worth remembering as perspective sometimes. You can’t just add to your life endlessly, there isn’t the time and very few things last forever so we have to constantly adapt to things ending and new things starting. I was very sad to leave the uni because that’s all I know, and at the moment I’m looking forwards to starting my new job and my new life but I’m sure come Monday morning when I have to go to work I’ll feel very nervous! It’s nice to have some progress though, I was done with endless essays and exams at uni and having a new goal to work towards is nice.

Anyway now you’re all up to speed with me and some Semisonic lyrics! Now I actually have some life to tell you about I should write more often!